Sunday, 28 December 2008
Goodbyes are very hard
Tomorrow would have been my Wedding anniversay - Dick and I spent many happy years together the last 12 years of his life were very hard for him, He was a strong man and other than having Mumps when he was 44 years old he never had an illness. never took time of work.
When he had his first heart attack he had been working in the garden - Lyn happened to glance
out of the window and saw her Dad holding his chest and not looking too well. She ran up the
garden to see what the matter was...he said he was OK, but she knew he was far from that, and
said she was going to telephone me at work - he insisted she didn't - but she did anyway. I told
her to ring the Doctor and I would be home shortly.I raced home, and by the time I arrived the Doctor was there, he confirmed that Dick had a heart attack and was going to ring for an Ambulance ...to take him to the hospital....and that he was to keep lying down until it arrived....well he didn't and when the ambulance arrived he answered the
door, he was well Suntanned and looked extremely well, they asked him where the patient was,
Dick told them he was the patient, they insisted that he lie down in the ambulance as they would
get wrong if anything should happen to him. on the way - he went to the Hospital against his will I might add, and was kept in for about 10 days,
His second heart attack was about 2 years later, he was planning a surprise birthday party for me, but as he was taken back into hospital this never took place.... While in hospital he suffered a
Stroke....he was not paralyzed, but it did effect his brain and speech, he could not speak and when he tried to the words would come out all jumbled and not as he intended them to. it took months of speech therapy and all of his will to overcome this....which to some degree he did....It did effect his hearing ~ funnily enough he could always understand what I said to him.
We go ahead a couple of more years, Dick picked me up from work and said he had not been
feeling well all day... during that evening he was taken bad and collapsed in the bedroom - he was trying to get up off the floor and pushing very hard to do so, I tried to help him but being very small I was of little help.
..I phoned the Doctor who advised me to call an ambulance which I did - I rang Lyn to let her know what was happening - she said she would meet me at the hospital....I waited and waited for
the ambulance to arrive half an hour passed then nearly an hour - Lyn called and wanted to know what was happening.I explained the ambulance had not arrived.... she contacted our Doctor ...who then ordered an Ambulance - it arrived quite soon after that....the paramedics had quite a job to get Dick onto a stretcher...because by then he was barely conscious,
When we arrived at the hospital they did lots of tests, and admitted him onto a ward....
When we visited the next morning the Doctor asked us questions, and he said they understood
Dick had been abroad, I told them he couldn't hear very well and he had actually been on the
Norfolk Broads Not Abroad...
..The Doctor was surprised as Dick had contacted Legionnaire's desease - and this for most people is fatal
.....He was in intensive care for about a week - and thankfully got better against all the odds...and came out of hospital after about three weeks.
I remember sitting having breakfast with him one morning and remarked how well he had been for about a couple of months....when I glanced at his arms - they were covered in big red marks he had got shingles.
Time went on and we got on with life as best we could, Dick coped very well with his disabilities,
and always enjoyed the visits of our grandchildren and Great grandchildren. who he loved dearly.
He was having a bit of trouble with pain in his knees, and on a visit to the hospital they said they
would do a small operation on both knees to help with the pain - He was booked to go into hospital just before Christmas, but this was cancelled at the last moment and deferred until early February...
Christmas came and went and February arrived ,,,Dick went into hospital....the operation went
well, But he caught a bug and was put into isolation, he was very ill and later transfered to Critical care, he then caught another bug, and was put on life support....It was up and down - some days we we were told he was improving ....the next he was getting worse...then holding his own...., this went on for a month - one day when Lyn and I went
into see him he pulled me towards him and gave me a huge big kiss then he did the same to Lyn....
Later on we were called into see the Doctor who told us there was nothing more they could do as
all of Dicks organs were shutting down.
..How do you say goodbye to someone you loved so dearly...and I never imagined us not being together....(we had been together since I was 16) .it is an impossibility......One I have yet to come to terms with..
He had lapsed into a coma.....
He didn't regain consciousness and died March 3rd 2003
The year before Lyn's husband Richard died in April from a massive heart attack - they told us it was so quick he would not have felt a thing he was a big strong man - A farmer who worked all hours that God sent him.
Lyn and I decided she to sell her cottage on the farm and me to sell my bungalow - we put
the money together and bought the Bungalow we live in today. It is a Big place with 5 bedrooms - but we both felt we needed our own space and needed a new beginning......